Right Or Married?

One thing that I have noticed in counseling couples is that a majority of them are more concerned with being right than they are with being married. A long time ago I was presented with the question; "Do you want to be right or do you want to be married?" This struck me as funny in that I like many others felt that I could have both. But, as I started researching this question what I found out is that we can't have both. Usually, once a couple starts arguing they stop seeking a comprimise, something to unifiy them, and they start looking to win. One party is talking and all the other party is doing is waiting for their chance to pounce on their opponent. Many couples even take this a step further. They seek to hurt or enrage their partner thinking that it might make them feel better if their partner feels worse. Must we down others to feel better about ourselves? A great question to ask your self when you feel yourself starting to head down this dark and narrow path might be, "six weeks from now is this really going to matter?" Many people can't tell you what the argument was about six days later much less six weeks. So the next time you are having a disagreement with your sponse start asking yourself, "do I want to be right (win the argument), or do I want to be married?"