From Gary Chapman's A Marriage Vine

If we follow the teachings of Jesus, the first step in improving my marriage is confessing my own failures: to God and to my spouse. But clearing out the rubble of past failures is not enough. I must now do something constructive. Excavation is always for the purpose of building. What we are building is a good marriage. The building blocks are good deeds. As I do or say something to meet my spouse's needs, I am building my marriage. As I look for their contributions and express appreciation I am creating a new atmosphere. "Darling, I haven't told you in a long time how much I appreciate the fact that you work regularly. I met a girl today whose husband will not keep a steady job. I really appreciate you."
Such words can change the attitude of a husband. If he sees you genuinely appreciate his efforts, he is motivated to do more for you. And when he does, your feelings for him become more positive. Your marriage is greatly improved